Part X wants to fu*ck up your sh*t

A mind blowing documentary

A friend of mine recently recommended the Netflix documentary STUTZ featuring Jonah Hill and his therapist Phil Stutz. This conversation blew my mind. There were so many similarities between his philosophy and coaching that I couldn't take notes fast enough!!

One in particular is so relevant to all of us; the idea that there is a part of yourself that secretly tells you that you aren't enough. This is the essence of what Stutz calls "Part X." It's enemy number one because it stops you from reaching your full potential by creating limiting beliefs, constantly interrupting your progress (reminding you that you aren't good enough/don't deserve whatever goal you are working toward/etc). I'm certain that we can all relate to this, no matter where we are in life, or how successful we may appear to be. 

Four ways that Stutz and his partner Barry Michels outline how Part X fu*cks up your sh*t:

Part X: I will keep you from fulfilling your potential by dangling immediate gratification. Wouldn't you rather scroll, Netflix and chill, overeat, have some cocktails, be a drama llama than take action to move toward your dreams?
Coaching: We call these behaviors "buffering "and they are the biggest obstacle to bridging the gap between where you are now and where you want to be because they keep you cycling through avoidant reactions to feelings.

Part X: You don't have enough energy to do the thing (this is a trap that I fall into regularly, I call it "I'm tired".)
Coaching: Excuses are the fuel for this trap and are often generated from emotions that I call INDULGENT: self-doubt, confusion, overwhelm. They literally lead you as far from your potential as you can get. 

Part X:  You are stuck. It defeats you so that when you are knocked down, you won't get back up again. You stop trying and ultimately stay in the same place instead of building the resilience needed to move forward. 
Coaching: Failure is the currency to your dreams, it's what you are making it mean that derails you. 

Part X:  It turns you into a victim, susceptible to comparison causing hurt feelings.  
Coaching: As the saying goes "comparison will kill you." All of our feelings come from a thought, including hurt. And our thoughts aren't true so we know that we can manage this circumstance with a mindset adjustment. It's like chiropractic for your brain!!

I love that these are all very coachable challenges, progress is only reliant on your commitment to an awareness of how these four things are impacting your life. You can find more information on Stutz and Michels "Tools" at thetoolsbook.com/blog.