Breaking the chains
We’ve all inherited things from our families—traditions, habits, beliefs—but what happens when those things hold us back? What if the patterns we’ve been handed down are more about pain than power? That’s where being a “chainbreaker” comes in. It’s about breaking free from the trauma cycles that have kept you stuck for far too long.
What’s a Chainbreaker?
A chainbreaker is a badass who decides enough is enough. You see the toxic cycles—whether it’s emotional abuse, toxic relationships, or self-doubt—and make a conscious choice to stop them in their tracks. It’s not easy; it takes guts, self-reflection, and the strength to face some ugly truths. But the reward? Freedom, healing, and a future that’s finally on your terms.
It Ends with Us: A Chainbreaker’s Tale
If you’ve read Colleen Hoover’s It Ends with Us or watched the movie, you know what being a chainbreaker looks like. Lily Bloom’s story is all about breaking free from a cycle of abuse. She loves Ryle, but she’s not about to repeat the nightmare she saw her mother live through. So, despite how hard it is, Lily chooses to walk away, ending the cycle for herself and her unborn child. The title says it all: “It Ends with Us.” That’s the power of breaking chains.
Your Journey to Becoming a Chainbreaker
Here’s how you can start taking those chains off:
Face the Truth: First, you have to admit there’s a cycle to break. Look at your past, your relationships, and your habits. What keeps repeating?
Find Your Tribe: You don’t have to do this alone. Whether it’s therapy, friends, or support groups, surround yourself with people who get it and have your back.
Arm Yourself with Knowledge: Understanding where the trauma comes from helps you tackle it head-on. Books, podcasts, whatever you need—get informed.
Set Boundaries Like a Boss: It’s time to protect your peace. Start saying no and draw those lines in the sand. You deserve to prioritize your well-being.
Show Yourself Some Love: This isn’t a walk in the park, and setbacks happen. Be kind to yourself—this is a marathon, not a sprint.
Rewrite the Script: You’re the author of your own life. Change the narrative, redefine success, and let go of anything that doesn’t serve you.
Own Your Power
If you are reading this blog, you’ve seen some stuff. You know what’s worth keeping and what needs to go. As a chainbreaker, you’re not just breaking cycles—you’re taking control of your life and rewriting the rules. You’re saying, “It ends with me,” and crafting a future that’s all about strength, positivity, and growth.